“One Shift of Awareness That Makes All the Differences: Stop Wanting, Start Having”.
by Song Chengxiang
Make a list of all the things you want in your life, and then tell me whether these are exactly the things that you don’t already have. If you really think about what I just said, you will come to the important realization that what you want – you don’t have. Isn’t that mind blowing? Doesn’t that sound weird and a little bit scary?
We have been told in order to get something, we must want it and want it badly enough. However, what you have been told is completely wrong. The truth is what you want, you don’t have. Let me put it another way, it is the WANTING that keeps you from having the things you want.
You might tell me of many examples in which people get things by wanting them. What I say to you is, they will never get those things if they keep wanting them. The reason they may get things is because they have changed their feelings and attitudes about them and when that happens, the process of wanting stops and they then attract these things.
If you compare their attitudes before and after having the things, you will find the difference. It’s not the wanting that brings them want they want, but the change of attitude from “the state of wanting” to the “state of accepting” or having.
Read that sentence again.
The important thing to remember is not how badly you want something, but how quickly you can shift your attitude. The longer you keep an attitude of want (or lack) the longer you have to wait. Wanting is a state of not having enough, or the lack of something. When you want something, you are telling the universe you don’t have it.
We have talked a lot about emotions and feelings. You need to know that the universe responds only to our emotions or feelings. The only language you can use to communicate with the universe is your emotion. Ask yourself, what are the emotions you associate with the things you want? If it is a feeling of not having, or one of lack, then the universe can only respond with the actual manifestation of “lack” and not having. Wanting is a not having vibration, so what you vibrate, you attract. The state of wanting will forever keep you not having.
Wanting is the exact opposite of having. If you want a million dollars, that shows you don’t have it. If you want a loving relationship, that shows you don’t have it. If you want a perfect job or career, that shows you don’t have it. The wealthy don’t want money, they have money. A loving person doesn’t want love, they have love. Only when you stop wanting something, can you have it.
This sounds contradictory, but true. If you are in the state of wanting, the law of attraction will attract to you people, circumstances and events to keep you in the state of wanting. Only when you get out of the state of wanting, and get into the state of having, will you be provided with the things and events that you desire. Wanting and having are two different states of feelings that create completely opposite results. One leads to the misery of lack, or not having, and the other leads to the joy of abundance.
Since they are your feelings, you have the ability to change them. Never forget that you are the master of your life. You can decide to live a life of lack or you can decide to live a life of abundance. It’s a decision for you to make. You can choose your destiny by simply altering your feelings. You can fool everyone else but you can’t fool yourself and you cannot fool the universe. Ask yourself right now, whether you are in a state of wanting or in a state of having. Feel as if you already have what you want.
For example, if you say you want a million dollars, but never made more than $50,000, it might be difficult to feel what it would be like to have that million… but if you have ever made even $10,000, you know how that feels. Think now about how it would feel if you had that $10,000 in your bank account… free and clear… imagine it again, and hold it in your mind as long as you can. Think what you could do today with $10,000 dollars; how you will feel when you take your partner or kids to dinner; how you will feel when you pay all your bills on time… and when you can do that, keep those good feelings as long and as often as you can. When that $10,000 comes to you then raise the amount and keep doing it with whatever amount you can really feel.
Then you could play a game and ask yourself what someone having a million dollars would feel and what they would spend it on. Make that list and feel how good it would feel when you write those checks. Make sure you feel those feelings the way you did for your $10,000 (or whatever amount you can relate to). This is what I mean by being in that “state of having”.
If you find yourself back in your daily worries about not having enough, switch to those good feelings… like changing the channel…the more often you do this, the easier it will get. But if you don’t change those feelings, you will stay just where you are…hard to do? Perhaps, but it does work… we have lots of proof… so what do you have to lose?
The laws of the universe are not bendable… We get what we think about most.
Remember that you are part of this universe… and this universe is infinite. TRy to imagine what an infinite being could possibly want…An infinite being has it all… now all you need to do (yes, difficult at first) is tap into that state of feeling, that you too, have it all. You are connected with the infinite and are already complete. When you accept that, you will find that you need nothing, because you already have everything.
Until then, you may find yourself still wanting. When you begin to realize that everything you desire, is available to you and you are willing to accept that, everything you previously wanted will show up. Life becomes perfect. Really work on what I shared with you today, and you will notice a shift in awareness – slight at first and then more and more obvious… and your life will begin to change with ways and opportunities that will open to you that you never imagined.